By Dylan Alexander

Online dating advice is everywhere... “compliment people,” “talk about your interests,” “email lots of people.”

That advice sucks.

Want a great online dating profile tip?
Here’s something you can easily use to maximize your internet dating:

VISUALIZATION

In the selection process of dating, people have a “that’s for me” moment where it becomes clear in their heads that they want the person they are looking at... and then start to figure out ways of getting them.

You need to build up this “that’s for me” moment in your profile. There are lots of different ways of achieving this, but there is one simple method that anyone can use, that will push readers much further in their decision making process.

What’s the best way of getting someone to that point?

Visualization...

Visualization. Leads. To. Action.

This is not new in other aspects of life, but people online dating haven’t caught onto it yet. This is good news for you, as it is going to give you a huge head start over your competition. Regardless of whether you are trying to motivate yourself, achieve difficult goals or sell something...visualization is always a major driving force and key to success.

Let me give you an example of how it can be used to influence the decision making process.

Ever go shopping for a new car and had the sales person say, “Couldn’t you just see yourself tearing down the road in this new *******?” If your brain is in a receiving state, you automatically start thinking about it... you picture it... and it looks goooood.
...and minutes later you are $##,000 in debt, as you pull out of the lot in your new ride.

Ok, so that’s an extreme example, but you understand where I’m going with this.

Visualization is critical. EVERY TRAIT IN YOUR PROFILE, if at all possible... should get described in terms of a visual example. It will get you into people’s brains (figuratively)!

So, if I was trying to describe sports/hobbies/activities I am interested in or engage in, instead of saying “I like snowboarding,” I would write:
“Every other weekend in the winter, you’ll find me in the early morning sun, sitting on the ski lift, K2 Nemesis 165 strapped on, iPod of cruising tunes plugged in, just waiting to hop off and drop into fresh powder.”

Both examples say “I like to snowboard”, but the second example makes a picture of it in the reader’s mind. Creating images of your life inside the other person’s conscious mind, in turn, makes all kinds of unconscious links with the reader and actually proves what you are saying. It sure beats “I like snowboarding.”

Why stop there, let’s take this to the next level!

Not only are we going to create a visual example, but we are going to create one that includes the reader! You are specifically painting them into your life to push them into the “that’s for me” moment.

Here’s an example:
“A winter weekend getaway would find both of us on a ski lift in the morning sun, boards strapped on, iPods jamming in our ears, waiting to get to the top and drop into fresh powder.”

See how easily it’s adapted? Now, instead of just believing that you snowboard, the reader gets to be a part of it... and if that is their idea of a good time, you’ve just moved them one big step closed to contacting you.

Here’s an example when it comes to describing lifestyle instead of specific traits:
“My perfect lazy Sunday would probably be you and I going for an early morning walk or rollerblade around the waterfront. We could pick up a couple ice creams and lay around the beach for an hour after, making little sandcastles. After that, head back home to relax in the back yard with our favorite books in my hammock made for two.”

This can also be used on dating sites that have “perfect dates” sections.

Visualization leads to action. Give your reader something to picture and your results will go up, guaranteed. Now bring up your profile and start looking for things that you can describe visually instead of just writing “I like to...”

Happy dating!

Dylan Alexander